A couple of days ago, a friend of mine brought up the distinction between a human being and a human doing. I’ve been fascinated with it since.
For my part, I can say that I mostly live my life as a human doing: I’ve structured my life around my efforts, which I’ve structured around goals. I feel that what I do with my moments, minutes, and months are decisions that need to be made actively. This means that I’m in my head a lot of the time, planning errands, projects, lifetime accomplishments and managing my energy so I can get the most done. My point is this: even when I’m my head, I am never not doing anything.
But I also know that sometimes (always?) the best way to make good things happen isn’t a matter of doing so much as being. An obvious example: If you want to be liked, it’s better not to try too hard, and instead just be comfortable in your skin. Another way to say this is that outlook shapes outcome. Being happy is the most effective thing you can DO to be happy.
Obviously, if you’ve got vision and goals, shaping outcome is very important, and thus outlook is too. Now here’s my question for you: Is it possible to take a goal-oriented approach to one’s outlook and way of being? What would a to-be list look like?